Alright, I think enough is enough! The media has twisted this whole issue into something that is so far from reality the story has become almost fiction.
First, let’s address this issue of how everybody’s calling this a “revenge website”. This is not revenge – this is reciprocity. There is a difference. I did this exact same thing to Patrick a few years ago, but because I’m a chronic pothead who can’t keep an organized thought in my head, I did it poorly. Still, because of my actions it harmed a lot of his relationships. He didn’t go cry to the police, the courts, and the media about it. He put it behind me and he moved on!
Reciprocity means doing something back to someone as they’ve done to you. That is all this website is.
All of the media has been throwing this term around. Bullying is when someone in a superior position exerts force against someone in a weaker position. That is not the case here! For years, while I was working at Apollo Group and Patrick was having financial difficulties, I hired lawyers to make his life difficult, I refused to contribute any assistance for our son. I would rather our son walk around with shoes with holes in them than to provide $10 toward the cost of a pair of shoes for him!
The fact that the tables have now turned and Patrick’s the one doing well and I’m down on my luck does not make this bullying. Whenever I have been in a superior position I have always used that against Patrick. Have you not read any of my emails from 2011 through 2013? They’re here on this website.
Moreover, if a person initiates aggression against another but then starts losing the fight how can that person claim she’s being bullied? It was not Patrick that pushed himself into my life and started throwing everything into disarray. I am the one that came back after 9 years then started doing underhanded, deceitful things. I am the one that initiated all this hostility by taking our son by force, after only 2 visits, rather than taking the time to build a relationship with him first. Just because I’m now losing this fight doesn’t mean Patrick is bullying me – it just means I attacked the wrong person and took on more than I could handle.
Let’s take a look at an email I sent Patrick on February 17, 2013 immediately after I found out he was released from ICE custody and the family court was, likely, going to order me to return our son to Patrick’s care. At that point I didn’t know Patrick had been deported.
…I also want to make it very clear that I’m not proposing this out of weakness or fear. Immigration and homeland security are not my only avenues and if pushed I will pursue them – I agree that I will probably not “win” in family court, but I have no intention of “beating” you there.
You can read the entire email here. And what did the court do about that? Nothing! So why is it acceptable for me to threaten Patrick? So I am the poor, harmless victim everybody is rallying behind?
My whole story is based on the presumption that the content of the website is all lies. Yet, I have not been able to provide a single piece of evidence to support any of my claims. At the same time, this website contains documents (police reports, court records, her own written statements) to support Patrick’s claims against me which I insist are false.
Defamation is the deliberate publishing of false information about a person in order to harm that person’s reputation. When the information is true it is not defamation! When the information is true there is nothing illegal about publishing it – no matter how harmful it might be to the person’s reputation.
Every single word about me, on this website, is completely true. That, and that alone, is the reason I have not filed a defamation suit. The cost of an attorney has nothing to do with it. I can represent myself – I’m already doing that in our family court case and in my other divorce and child custody case. I know that in order to proceed with a defamation suit I would have to be able to show that the information is false and I just can’t do that.
Harassment, whether in the US or in Canada, necessarily requires an element of contact between the parties. Publicly speaking about another person, no matter what you’re saying about them, is not harassment! It really is that simple! The entire media story is based on a false premise. There is absolutely no law in the US or Canada, and no court in the US or Canada has the authority to compel a person to not speak about another person. Particularly, if the statements are true – as they are on this website.
I have yet to see anything in the media which attempts to realistically convey the reason Patrick created this website, or the reason Patrick is adamant about not taking it down. Everybody is so wrapped up in poor little Desiree that they completely disregard everything I have done.
For Christ’s sake, Patrick posted, yesterday, proof that I’ve been lying about him hiding our son from me. My own words in a declaration I filed with the family court in 2011!
Stop being fucking sheep! Being led around by the media which very clearly has no interest in reporting the full story. Read about some of the things I have done recently. Decide for yourself instead of letting some journalist with her own agenda tell you what you should think.
Alright, I have work to do!