You believe whatever you want to, it doesn't make any of it true - it just
makes it your belief. You have always put your own spin on events - I no
longer care. Take it back to court - I am not scared and have nothing to
On Monday, July 22, 2013, Patrick wrote:
I would like to point out that you have a history of agreeing to things
when you think you have no other choice, or that you won't prevail, then
reneging the first chance you get - like in September 2011 when you agreed
to the terms G***** said he wanted, then the next day tried to have your
attorney prohibit communication between me and G*****; or in February of
this year when you admitted that you knew you would not prevail in court
and "just wanted to do what's best for G*****", then when the court
erroneously granted you custody you completely disregarded what you earlier
stated you believed to be best for G*****. Therefore, any proposal you
make is not credible.
My desire to have your visitation and contact cancelled is based on my
sincere belief that you are a bad person, and my desire to protect G*****
from that. Your actions don't seem to be based on G*****'s interests or
well being, at all, but rather on your desire to spite me and to not have
to pay child support. I'm saying this based on your record of refusing to
cooperate in G*****'s interests - for example, refusing to provide money
for his shoes (or anything else, for that matter) when I was temporarily
unable to do so; getting him a phone then cancelling it because he didn't
want to visit you; living with and vehemently defending the actions of your
tweaker, criminal fiancé (and leaving G***** in his care while you're at
work and he's getting high). My conclusion that you are a bad person is
based on specific, articulable facts - not on assumptions.
For these, and other, reasons I believe that your continued presence in
G*****'s life will only continue to bring grief and disappointment for
him. I am unable to identify a single positive contribution you have made
in the last two years.
On 2013-07-21 9:58 PM, "Desiree Capuano"
You didn't propose anything beyond giving G***** back to you and
disappearing. That's not a compromise. Did expect me to say yes? At least
when I offered an "amicable" solution it offered time with us both in an
attempt to be fair. Not your style, I know. So - do what you need to do.
I am not scared and I have nothing to hide.
On Sunday, July 21, 2013, Patrick wrote:
Okay then. That's all I needed to hear. I've done my part and made
numerous good faith efforts to work things out and you've repeatedly
refused to put any effort into it.
I'll let G***** know your position and where things stand, because
apparently you don't.
On Sun, Jul 21, 2013 at 12:45 PM, Desiree Capuano <
You do what you feel you need to.
On Sunday, July 21, 2013, Patrick wrote:
As you know, you started a new position 3 weeks ago. As of yesterday, I
put a deposit on a 2 bedroom apartment which I move into on August 1. My
current position pays, after taxes and deductions, about $80,000 a year (my
disposable income). The project manager is going on maternity leave later
this year, at which time I there has been talk of me taking over her role,
which will put my disposable income at about $108,000 a year. Since I have
absolutely no bad credit in Canada, I have been able to get approved for a
loan of $20,000 which I intend to spend entirely on legal fees. In
addition, I intend to spend ALL of my income (minus cost of living) on
legal fees. I have been in contact with a lawyer in Los Angeles and have
provided him full disclosure of material, including all of our emails, and
he is willing to take the case. He will be charging $250/hour but he has
an incredible track record. Obviously, I would rather put that money
toward G*****'s future and education...but I am prepared to put every
resource I have, and to get myself grossly into debt, to get G***** back
and to have you removed, completely, under court order, from both of our
lives - permanently. From my conversations with G*****, it is clear that
is what both of us want!
School here starts the day after labor day. I have already completed the
required formalities to be able to enroll him here (because he was not born
in Canada) and he has been approved. I have applied for his Social
Insurance number. He is covered under my medical insurance and is the sole
beneficiary of my life insurance.
This is my final attempt to resolve this matter amicably. I hereby
request that you return G***** to my custody before the start of the BC
school year, with all of his belongings. If you continue to refuse to
cooperate, in G*****'s interests, then my only remaining alternative is to
proceed with the lawyer. And let me be perfectly clear: if we go down that
road EVERY aspect of your life WILL be scrutinized, his investigator WILL
research, document and record EVERYTHING you are doing and have done for
the past 10 years; every disciplinary action or behavioral report about
Sage will be brought up; every single time you, Michael, Kristopher, your
mother, your brother, and anyone else close to you has ever interacted with
any law enforcement officer, not paid a bill on time, will be scrutinized;
every past and present employer and landlord will be interviewed; every
person you've lived with or associated with will be questioned; every tax
return, every credit card bill, every bank account, every medical record
(including psychological/psychiatric) for all the relevant people in your
life will be found and picked apart (medical records are confidential but
investigators always have ways around that). Every time Sage choked a kid
at school it will be found. Every person you've ever had any relationship
with, or slept with, or even just had a drink with, will be found and
questioned. Every person that comes to your home, or whose home you go to;
every person you work with, will be researched and questioned. Every
person you have ever betrayed, lied to, deceived and mislead will be
located and interviewed. I anticipate it will cost me well over $100,000,
and I accept that.